4 - Forgive and Engage

3 Steps to Improve


After all of this talk about warning signs and potential pitfalls, you may be wondering where the positive advice fits in. In Part 4, Justin and Trisha give three positive actions for building a healthy marriage.



How do you and your spouse normally engage each other spiritually? What changes do you think the two of you should make regarding spiritual engagement?
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Do you have an "I'm fine" problem? What do you think about Trisha's suggestion that avoiding conflict actually breaks intimacy?
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Matthew 18:21-22 (ESV)

The Parable of the Unforgiving Servant

21Then Peter came up and said to him, “Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?”22Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you seven times, but seventy-seven times.

Scripture quotations marked (ESV) are from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®, copyright © 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.


What are the little things that you hang onto to keep score? How will you approach your spouse this week and ask for forgiveness for resentment or bitterness?
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When marriage becomes a competition, there is never a real winner. Even the one who is right is defeating the person they are supposed to love the most. 


When husbands and wives make Christ central, they avoid drift into destructive habits, they fight for one another, they keep their life's pace healthy and they easily offer forgiveness. Do all of these things around the core of our Savior, and watch your marriage grow.



If you would like to learn more about Justin and Trisha's ministry, visit their website at RefineUs.org. Plus you can also read deeper about their own story and marriage advice in the book, Beyond Ordinary by Justin and Trisha Davis here.