1 - The Love Bank

Session 1

His needs, her needs—we all have needs. The trick is figuring out how to fulfill those needs and express our own to our spouses in an intentional and loving way. There are many different emotional components within a marriage that become difficult to deal with if we aren't including a few key things. In this 6-part course, William (Bill) F. Harley, and his wife, Joyce, will be walking us through the concept of the love bank, and how we can use this concept to meet the emotional needs of our spouses.

Dr. Willard F. Harley, Jr. is a nationally acclaimed licensed clinical psychologist, a marriage counselor, and the bestselling author of numerous books, including His Needs, Her Needs, Five Steps to Romantic Love, Love Busters, and His Needs, Her Needs for Parents. Joyce S. Harley has 25 years of radio experience as a talk show host and a producer. She is active in evangelism as a regional representative with Stonecroft Ministries and is a recording artist with a vibrant Bible teaching and singing ministry. 


Everything we do has an effect on those around us—especially our spouses. When we have emotional attachments to people, we easily can become hurt by their actions or feel loved and appreciated which results in emotional rollercoasters. If we use the love bank to keep track of how people treat us, it could reveal a lot to us regarding our emotional state.

What did you think about the “love bank” mindset? Did this help you understand how to keep track of the way people treat you?
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Would you say that you make more love bank deposits? Or do you make more love bank withdrawals?
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How have you and your spouse currently been trying to meet each other’s needs?
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We should respect each others feelings when we acknowledge that we feel hurt, but we should also be quick to express when we feel loved by our partners. If we do a good job of keeping track of our “deposits and withdrawals,” then we won’t have to deal with the repercussions of being overdrawn.