3 - Contemplation

Thinking About Change?


The last session looked at the first stage of growth: pre-contemplation. In this session, Jeff will talk about contemplation, the second stage of growth.  



 Most people will engage you in the contemplation stage, but many can get stuck in this stage. Some can get stuck in their heads so the leader’s job is to help them process what is going on in their heads. Jeff suggested creating four quadrants on a piece of paper, much like the graphic below and asking the person to fill it out, then assign an emotional weight to each advantage/disadvantage on a scale from one to ten. 


The Four Quadrants

Have you ever processed a decision to change with a chart as Jeff suggested? If so, how did it help? If not, would you consider using one in the future? Why or why not?
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Jeff described four factors that prevent people from moving forward.
  • Magical thinking
  • Belief that change should feel good
  • Waiting for the right time
  • Belief that the target behavior is just too hard 

Which of the four factors do you relate to the most? Why?
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How have you seen magical thinking (wishful thinking with no action) at play in your life and in the lives of those you lead?
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In what ways has change been uncomfortable for you? How might your experience inform how you talk with someone who expects change to feel good?
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Do you agree with Jeff that the "right time" to make a change never comes? Why or why not?
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What disadvantages have you observed when people awfulize a situation?
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How would you categorize those you lead under each of the “R”s? How could you help them move past their hesitations toward change this week?
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Once someone admits they need to change, it takes time to move them toward action. As a leader, you can encourage those in the contemplation stage forward, especially if you understand where there are coming from. Take time to observe and understand your employees this week and come up with ways you can show them the faith to move forward.