4 - Be Wise Within Conflict

Be Genuine and Authentic


Over this course, Jeff has taught us how to prepare for conflict before it happens, how to manage your own natural responses, and how to initiate conflict in a warm way. In this final section, Jeff warns of ways conflict could go awry. We can navigate conflict carefully by being genuine and transparent.  



Many factors can contribute to conflict going awry. Whether we approach in a harsh manner, criticize and attack, or have conflict when we are emotionally upset, we can derail progress toward resolution. However, by choosing to be transparent and genuine, we can do much to alleviate conflict. 

What pitfalls do you usually experience when in conflict with someone else? Where could you grow in your skills?
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Hebrews 12:14-15 (ESV)

14 Strive for peace with everyone, and for the holiness without which no one will see the Lord.15See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God; that no “root of bitterness” springs up and causes trouble, and by it many become defiled;

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As Hebrews instructs us, we are to “strive for peace with everyone.” This means that leaving conflicts unresolved does not result in true peace, but ends instead in bitterness and trouble. 

Jeff said that unresolved conflicts are like boomerangs—they continue to come back and eventually destroy our relationships. How does this passage in Hebrews encourage us to guard against unresolved conflicts?
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Choosing to be genuine, transparent, and authentic can go a long way in resolving conflict. Do you have trouble being transparent? How could you grow in this area?
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Though conflict is inevitable, it proves to be a healthy and beneficial process that grows our relationship with another person. When we invest in our relationships, know and manage our natural reactions, and address the behavior at hand, rather than attack another person, we can productively move through our issues into resolution and reconciliation.