Marriage Basics

What is a Gospel-Centered Marriage?

Contrary to popular belief, marriage isn’t all about the perfect wedding dress or a romantic honeymoon. God designed marriage for His glory and our good. Pastors Tim Savage and Stephen Um use Scripture to portray a biblical, God-glorifying marriage.  

In the first part of this post, Tim Savage, Senior Pastor of Camelback Bible Church in Phoenix, Arizona, describes a gospel-centered marriage. 

Tim defined a gospel-centered marriage as two people—declared righteous through Christ, grateful to God, given new life in the Holy Spirit—who are now joined together by God. This kind of marriage focuses on Jesus and gratitude to God.  

What stood out to you about Tim’s definition? Why?
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If you are married, how might focusing on Jesus Christ and being grateful to Him impact your marriage? What could you do as a couple in the next few days to turn your eyes to Jesus? If you aren’t married, how could you use your life to glorify Christ this week?
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If you’re married, Work together with your spouse to follow after Jesus. Take time this week to pray for your marriage. Ask Him to enrich your marriage for His glory. Whether you’re married or single, thank God for salvation through Jesus and center your life around Him. 

What Are Biblical Roles For Husbands And Wives?

Christians toss around many ideas about the role of husbands and wives, but sometimes these notions aren't based in Scripture. What is God's true design and intention for marriage? In the previous section, Tim Savage explained gospel-centered marriage. In this final section, Stephen Um, Senior Minister at Citylife Presbyterian Church in Boston, Massachusetts, uses Ephesians 5 to point out the biblical roles for husbands and wives.  

Ephesians 5:22-27 (ESV)

Wives and Husbands

22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.23For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.

25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,26that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word,27so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.

Scripture quotations marked (ESV) are from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®, copyright © 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

Stephen said Ephesians 5 outlines the responsibilities husbands and wives have to each other. He described these roles as expressions of love and sacrifice, not oppression or abuse.  

How did Stephen define the roles of husbands and wives?
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What do you think about these roles? Do you agree? Why or why not?
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Stephen illustrated these roles through an example from his own marriage. How do the roles of husbands and wives play out practically in a marriage? If you are married, how do you and your spouse navigate these roles?
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If you’re married, what could you do to love to your spouse this week? What could you sacrifice for them? How could you encourage them? If you’re single, what might it look like to pursue holiness in your life this week?
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Stephen said marriage is not about happiness, it’s about holiness. The same applies to all of life. God purifies us through our circumstances and how we love others so we become more Christlike. If you are married, be intentional about loving your spouse this week. If you’re single, pick someone in your life to encourage and serve in the next few days. 

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