How Can You Teach Children Who Are Reluctant to Change?

Shift Your Focus

There’s no such thing as a perfect kid. Even the best kids tell lies, break curfew, or sass back. But what do you do when your child continues to disobey no matter what you do? Julie Lowe is a counselor and faculty member for CCEF. She holds an M.A. in counseling from Biblical Theological Seminary, has over fifteen years of counseling experience, and teaches on topics ranging from parenting to marriage. Listen to Julie talk about how to be proactive parents. 

There is freedom in your approach to parenting. But as parents, it is your responsibility to teach your children godly behavior, which starts with you and your relationship with God. 

What is your motivation to discipline your children? To change their behavior? To change their heart? Both?
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Julie advises parents to concentrate less on changing their kid’s behavior and more on their response to their kids. How can you shift your focus away from you child’s behavior and toward how you react to their behavior? Do you count it a success if you react well but your child’s behavior does not change? Why or why not?
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How can you model the gospel to your kids even when they are acting out? Where do you need to grow in order to continue to lead them toward God?
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Has your attitude changed about discipline? If so, how? What could you do this week to change how you react to your kids?
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You can’t always control your kid’s behavior, but you can control what you teach them and how you react to them. Focus on obeying God and trust Him to work in your children’s lives. 

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